Twenty-something
While poking around my hard drive I found the following saved from a few years back. I ran into it in first year and liked some of what was in it, but reading it today was kind of creepy - some bits are a tad trite, and certainly all of it doesn't apply, but mostly it sums up what I've been feeling the past few weeks. A few especially on-point parts have been bolded.
The usual caveat applies to people who know me; if you tihnk I'm referring to you and it's bad, you're probably wrong; if you think I'm referring to you and it's good, you're probably right.
"They call it the 'Quarter-life Crisis'. It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get hot and scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.
What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you are.
You look at your job you have right now. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that is scary.
You miss the comforts of home, and will soon miss the ones of university or college as well.
You miss the safety of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe that weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are a bundle of contradictions though -- you are insecure and then secure.You laugh and cry with the greatest forces of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused, yet excited and curious of what life will bring your way.
Suddenly change becomes an enemy and you cry and cling on to the past for dear life, and then realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. The questioning ones plateau, the sure ones rise.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough and worth your while to get to know better.
You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You wonder what the hell is wrong with you. You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender.
We are making a lot of mistakes, but helping one another to learn from them. We will piss one another off, and laugh at the end of a conversation that started with angry words.
We are a group that talks behind the backs of the same people we call to meet up with on a Friday night, but we are sorry about it and we know that we were just being insecure like they have been [Editor: Okay, this bit is more first year than anything].
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it in one way or another, and we are all in this together.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
We are friends, and in 10 years we will be friends who have figured out where we fit in in this world. Hopefully in those ten years the friends we went through this crisis with will still be close by and in close contact and questions will be answered along the way because we will be there for one another."
The usual caveat applies to people who know me; if you tihnk I'm referring to you and it's bad, you're probably wrong; if you think I'm referring to you and it's good, you're probably right.
"They call it the 'Quarter-life Crisis'. It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get hot and scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.
What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you are.
You look at your job you have right now. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that is scary.
You miss the comforts of home, and will soon miss the ones of university or college as well.
You miss the safety of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe that weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger.
You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are a bundle of contradictions though -- you are insecure and then secure.You laugh and cry with the greatest forces of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused, yet excited and curious of what life will bring your way.
Suddenly change becomes an enemy and you cry and cling on to the past for dear life, and then realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. The questioning ones plateau, the sure ones rise.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough and worth your while to get to know better.
You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You wonder what the hell is wrong with you. You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender.
We are making a lot of mistakes, but helping one another to learn from them. We will piss one another off, and laugh at the end of a conversation that started with angry words.
We are a group that talks behind the backs of the same people we call to meet up with on a Friday night, but we are sorry about it and we know that we were just being insecure like they have been [Editor: Okay, this bit is more first year than anything].
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it in one way or another, and we are all in this together.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
We are friends, and in 10 years we will be friends who have figured out where we fit in in this world. Hopefully in those ten years the friends we went through this crisis with will still be close by and in close contact and questions will be answered along the way because we will be there for one another."
